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Your relationship is a direct reflection of your own self-love and self-worth. -Mastin Kipp

Coaching clients come to me with relationship problems – whether single or coupled, they are often entangled in a story of how their partner or lack of a partner is the cause their unhappiness.  So much of their attention – their first attention – is focused on others that they fail to nourish a loving relationship with themselves.

So I find that my work with clients, after they articulate their inspired life vision, is to bring to light the idea that our relationship with ourselves is the blueprint for all the relationships in our lives.  If you believe your are not loveable, that belief will be projected onto your relationships with others – maybe not immediately, but eventually.  If you are critical and judgmental about your body it will eventually be impossible to believe that someone else sees you as beautiful or handsome.

Remember:  We teach others how to treat us by how we treat ourselves – beginning with the beliefs we have about ourselves.

Mastin Kipp, CEO and Founder of The Daily Love writes:

We date at the level of our self-esteem. Your relationship is a direct reflection of your own self-love and self-worth.

A lot of TDL Seekers have written in saying that they are in a relationship (dating, marriage, etc.) with someone who they really are into, but they are not getting their needs met. They keep asking me how they have to change to keep the relationship going.


Let me be clear – the only way we should have to change is to be more authentically ourselves. This means compromise, of course, but this also means not abandoning ourselves to please another.

The common question seems to be: “How can I change myself so this will work”, and the response is “Don’t change yourself – BE YOURSELF”. (read more)